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NeverTrueLove's avatar

Agatha inside your head You can't live with a man you just met.

Sophie inside your head Do it! Do it! DO it!

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Mara's avatar

Seeing writing a book very similar to a relationship is an interesting thought.

I feel if I were in an actual relationship, I'd need therapy. 🤣

Also, I need to pick up writing and just start writing freely without worrying about perfection, and making changes as I go or later. Lately, my "relationship" for writing has been somewhat strained.

I'm glad to see that there is hope for quicker relationships after all! Looks like a key thing is understanding a lot about the person on so many levels.

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Soman Chainani's avatar

Relationships with writing are often strained! But the good moments outweigh the bad ones :)

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Michelle's avatar

Omg love.

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NeverTrueLove's avatar

I've been to therapy albeit not couple therapy and I'll never call it useless but usually my therapist reiterate what my loved ones already told me. So I'm not sure I guess writing is something I always wanted therapy it feels like a hanaki disease albeit instead of throwing petal it feels like spewing ink because it goes from notebooks to performing autopsy on corrupted word documents. I guess I have to be in therapy with how I feel about the human race because friendships are costly and sometimes friends aren't always able to play due to responsibilities they have

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Soman Chainani's avatar

This is where writing can be its own therapy to get your feelings out and in a way that you can process them…

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hallie m. bertling, halthegal.'s avatar

THIS BOOK.

i've been researching/writing/re-outlining/re-writing/floundering around for THREE and a HALF YeARS. (while also querying my mg and 2 picture books.)

but i'm getting out of town this weekend for THREE days. and i got my (latest) re-outline done this morning at writing group... so here's to re-starting that DRAFT ZERO. (or negative four? am i supposed to count backwards?)

i just started reading EGO IS THE ENEMY (ryan holiday) for an online author/reader bookclub... and highlighting the crap out of chapter two... how much OTHEr THingS that seem adjacent to the creative life actually suck away our creative energy. i feel called out on that, anyway.

i'll figure it out... i hope. : P

all that to say: i think i've had too much "counseling" and not enough "being in the relationship" with this book. so i should get on that. :)

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Soman Chainani's avatar

Sometimes you just need to leave the doctors office and get into the thing…

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Tal Hughes's avatar

The book i'm trying to write ;-;. I just can't find the inspiration to write, but I want to! Maybe it's because I feel like I'm a bad writer, but I'm not sure 😭

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Soman Chainani's avatar

“bad writer” is just a way of setting expectations too high. Enjoy the work. That’s all there is to it

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Tal Hughes's avatar

True 😁

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